While working on my article Anal Sex Anatomy I saw a need to compare anal with vaginal sex. While this is not an uncommon muse for many men, heterosexuals and homosexuals alike, the central point to this article is that anal sex constantly gets a bad rap. This article is specifically aimed at to the constant warnings, precautions and concerns about anal sex in perspective. While this might have particular relevance to women, there is a lot that men will learn about women’s struggles with sexuality in general as well as anal sex specifically.
There is far too much emphasis is placed on the risks that are associated with anal sex. That is not to say there are no risks, they just need to be put in perspective. There are similar dangers associated with vaginal sex. Risk of tears and infections from vaginal penetration are, for the most part, glossed over or completely ignored.
Compare anal with vaginal sex pain
You rarely see any discussion on the dangers of vaginal sex unless it is a discussion on rape or sexual abuse. Worse still, it’s commonly accepted that the first time a woman has vaginal sex it is going to be painful. The hymen will, and must, be torn. There will or should be blood on the sheets. So, the first point I want to make is that this should be an unacceptable set of beliefs.
Now compare anal with vaginal sex. But despite the wide acceptance of pain and physical damage to a women during vaginal penetration, the slightest hint that anal sex could be painful (it certainly does not need to be) is considered a hard limit.
Vaginal sex is painful
Let’s start with putting pain from anal sex in perspective. In a 2017 British Study 7.5% of the 8,869 sexually active women in the study experienced pain during vaginal sex. Either very often or always for more then 6 months. In a review of an American survey posted by Psychology Today in 2012, between 15% and 33% of women suffer pain during vaginal sex. The article sites the following causes and more:
- Lack of lubrication
- Non-sensual lovemaking
- Inserting too quickly or deeply
- Relationship issues
- Skin conditions
- Sexually transmitted infections
- Emotional sexual trauma
At this point you would be forgiven for thinking that they were referring to the causes of pain resulting from anal sex/penetration, but they are not. Go back and look at any list or warnings about the perils of anal sex and you find a striking similarity. Actually, the list of causes for vaginal pain is much longer.
The article makes the following assertion, which I attest to;
“Attention, men: Except for consensual BDSM, sex should never hurt.” This is also the case for anal sex.