Alcohol and Anal Sex
First published February 2, 2015
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Mixing alcohol and anal sex

Every time the subject of using alcohol to help a bottom take a cock (consenting bottom), especially when the question relates to virgin anal sex, neigh sayers descend on the forum discussion with outrageous claims. Ignorant and insensitive people insist mixing alcohol with anal sex is a one way trip to the ER. In the extreme the claims suggest anyone using alcohol to easy anal penetration is a candidate for the Darwin Awards. From a clinical standpoint, nothing could be further from the truth and there is no medical justification for all the negativity.

Alcohol is a recreational drug

Alcohol (Booze) is the perfect drug for an anal retentive. It eases pain in two ways. First and most obviously, as an anesthetic, it dulls pain. But far more importantly, it relaxes muscles, both directly and indirectly. The number one cause of anal sex pain is muscle strain. The first time some people attempt anal penetration, they just can’t relax their anal sphincters.

I can find no explanation for the outrageous claims suggesting that using alcohol to loosen up for anal sex puts people in hospital or could result in death. It is possible that alcohol would impair some people’s judgement and they may place themselves in compromising situations. But rape is not the issue here. Consenting adults regularly consume alcohol before ending up in bed. A staggering number of people lose their anal virginity after sharing a candlelit dinner with some wine or champagne.

Other scenarios include after or during a party or a concert or other social event where they lift their emotional spirits, enjoyment, excitement with some alcohol. With their inhibitions subdued, they succumb to their own anal urges. Urges that they have been suppressing or the anal advances of a partner that they have been discouraging. With a bit of intoxication, they were converted. Others may have only done it the once, but none of them end up in hospital or dead.

Alcohol’s drug effects

To gain the greatest benefit from alcohol to help you with anal sex, you do not want to be “Blotto”. You want to be just a little bit tipsy. Just one or two drinks for a woman. Maybe three for a man.

The official position on drug use?

Let’s get the warnings out of the way first:

“There is no safe level of drug use. Use of any drug always carries some risk. It’s important to be careful when taking any type of drug.” – Australian Drug Foundation

But let’s keep things in perspective. First up, alcohol is legal throughout most of the world, compared to other drugs that fall under the same chemical/pharmaceutical classification. It is a recreational drug that is consumed daily by literally 100’s of millions, if not billions, of people. The effects of long term abuse, binge drinking and alcoholic poisoning are well know and are neither diminished nor exacerbated by using it as an aid to Anal Sex.

The drug administration’s classification of alcohol

Alcohol (Booze) is classified as a Depressant, along with heroin, cannabis, the prescription drug group of benzodiazepines and other prescription tranquilizers. This does not mean that people who take these drugs must be depressed or that it will make them depressed.

“Depressants slow down the activity of the central nervous system (the brain and spinal cord), which reduces a person’s alertness, and also slows down functions such as breathing and heart rate.” – Australian State Library

This is exactly the type of assistance someone needs who wants to have/try anal sex but is struggling with one of more of the typical problems associated with anal sex (see: – Anal Sex Problems)

The outward effects of Depressants is to lower inhibition, which lowers any anxiety (whether related to the act of anal sex or not). Unless you are catatonic or seriously inebriated, the alcohol does not stop you feeling pain. What it does is slow down the neural transmission thereby helping to prevent startled reactions and muscle spasms.

When it comes to anal sex there is a very useful and unseen benefit from depressants. The inner anal sphincter (IAS), which is controlled by the autonomic nervous system, can be particularly uncooperative for the inexperienced. This is the number one reason people actively train for anal sex. Alcohol has the same effect on the autonomic nervous system as with any other part of the central nervous system and that makes it much easy to pass something through the IAS.

Limits to how much alcohol can help

My cautionary words are these;

Too much alcohol can have a reverse effect, inducing rage, depression as well as anxiety attracts.
While you can still feel pain, you anesthetized consciousness may choose to ignore it.
Alcohol is for the bottom. If you are inexperienced you need the top to have all their faculties to make sure they don’t over step any marks.
Because booze lowers your inhibitions (depresses your ego) you may consent to things while you are drunk that you regret when you are sober again.

Alcohol is not a substitute for lube. Good anal lube will prevent damage from friction (remember to inject a load up your ass before you start – see: What is a Good Anal Lube) and getting tipsy will release the muscle (the IAS in particular) and make everything go in (and out) easier.

If you are not into alcohol there is no need to go down this path either. Most of my advice on Learning to Enjoy Anal Sex is base on you being completely sober.


  1. Chrissy4605 November 30, -0001 at 00:00

    Very well written Max! I cannot disagree with your reasoning. You covered the caveats quite well. I might try some alcohol next time I play with someone else.

  2. Hisjellybyrd November 30, -0001 at 00:00

    Because so many strongly oppose any drinking with any BDSM activity it was a guilty, dirty lil secret of mine that I sometimes partake of a few drinks. Ty, for making me feel better about it. I love your site btw.

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